I have a few copies of “Playboy” from the 1970s stashed away somewhere. One of them has a letter where a guy writes in saying, “I met this really gorgeous, sweet woman, and we were planning to get married, but she sat me down yesterday and told me that she had a sex change before she met me. Mr. Hefner, should I marry someone who used to be a man?” and the response was, “So she had a sex change, big whoop. Would you be asking this question if she’d made any other change in her life before she met you? You love the woman she is now, and that’s all that should matter. If you want kids you can adopt or something.”

I feel so conflicted right now

That awkward moment when Hugh Hefner is more trans-positive than most feminists of the same era. 


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I loved this scene so much. The actors play off this pairing as flirty and adorable in a way the characters really weren’t in the novels IMO. 

That said, when she said the line, “Girls see more blood than boys,” my husband was all confused and like, “What, warrior women, she means?”

So I just looked at him and started listing off, “Blood from their periods every month, maybe blood from sex, blood from childbirth, blood from tending and washing the wounded and dead…That’s been true for most of womankind all through history.”

And he got very, very quiet.

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when boys have sleepovers do they sleep in the same bed like girls do or do the rules of no homo include sharing beds

girls always share beds. and covers and clothes and food and personal space. sometimes even bathrooms

Girls share everything.

#girls dont believe in no homo #all da homo #dont give a fuck.

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If you have suffered a tragedy and someone says, “you’re in my prayers” with sincerity, and you respond with some egotistical shit about being atheist you are an emotionally inept moron.

For real though like think about it. If someone is religious, there’s really no kinder sentiment they can express than appealing to the highest power they know for your recovery. Whether or not you think it “works” is irrelevant— the kindness is absolutely real.

1. Nice ableism in the first post. Really great. 

Except, if YOU have suffered a tragedy, why are YOU obligated to bite your tongue and smile and accept every placation and sentiment happily, regardless of how it makes YOU feel? Why is the sentiment of the person giving comfort more important than the feelings of the person suffering here?

YOU are the one who is suffering. And if “you’re in my prayers” DOESN’T help YOU, the person who is SUFFERING; if it in fact, MAKES YOU FEEL WORSE, why are YOU the asshole for saying something? Why are YOU “emotionally inept”? 

Why does the person suffering have to just suck it up and and say nothing, even if well intentioned sentiments are ACTUALLY HARMFUL? Intention does not negate causation, and if something you have said is causing a suffering person MORE SUFFERING, however well intentioned, it is NOT the suffering person’s fault if they tell you. 

I’m an atheist. If i am SUFFERING, as you said, and you used your religion as a way to comfort me, that would not help. In fact, it would probably make things WORSE. How am I the bad guy here, when I am the one suffering, and YOU are the one who has made it worse, just because you were well intentioned

MAYBE, just MAYBE, if someone you know is suffering, you should CONSIDER what will ACTUALLY make them feel better, instead of what YOU think is a kind thing to say. Since, ya know, THEY are suffering. 

I hope I don’t sound like a dick but what WOULD help console an atheist? How does it make you feel worse? Religious people and non religious people are usually misunderstanding each other. We can’t think of another way to console. What if it’s a stranger? How do we follow up on the mistake? I don’t wanna say “Oh well I’ve got nothing else.” Well I suppose something like “I wish for your recovery.” But does that still fall in the religious category???

How about “I’m so sorry” or “I hope things get better” or “is there anything I can do to help?” or “do you want to talk about it?” Those sentiments are fine,  warm-hearted, and don’t bring faith into it. 

 If you want to comfort someone, do it on THEIR terms.  Don’t assume your language of comfort will help other people. 

And it’s not just atheists. I’m supremely uncomfortable with Christians praying for me.

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SO basically I have been meaning to talk about this for a while now so I probably won’t keep it that short, this shall be a psa in tumblr terms so bear with me tbh and maybe just maybe you will learn something and will stop giving me migraines everytime I’m rolling down my dashboard.

  • If you see a post, about a group of people, an ethnicity, a country —-> their history, culture, music, food whatever and your first impulse is diagnosing whether they are ‘white or poc’ stop that like literally stop that never do that.
  • IF this said faraway country or people fit your little white/poc diagram stop labelling them as such and for HEAVENS SAKE do no use the term ‘poc majority countries’ or whatever.
  • when you read a post about someone’s creations whoever they are, unless you are specifically talking about how they are viewed within American academia or whatever (for example x person is erased in this racist american textbook cause racist americans don’t view them as white etc) don’t call them POC creations or POC  whatever the fuck blablabla poc supremacy blabla especially if you are talking about like rich upper class people in the ottoman empire or whatever. Like Suleiman the Magnificient is not your POC supremacy icon to burn down your neighbour’s white fav Henry VIII or whatever the fuck.
  • Don’t Medievalpoc
  • Don’t put different time periods and different regions of the world into this white/poc bullshit just don’t do it it is UNEEDED amongst many things
  • Even within the context of modern America, apart from certain specific groups you can’t really label a whole ethnicity as poc or white imo. Like I know Azeris that would pass as white in America both culturally/Socially/economically and physically and I know Azeris that wouldn’t. It is usually conditional, so even in America x group as a whole can usually hardly be put into that white/poc thing

Now to get into the deeper seas of fuckery on this site oh boy oh boy indeed.

  •        IF and good lord I can’t believe this needs to be said but anyway, IF you see a post about a genocide or human suffering of any kind do not DO NOT DO NOT DO FUCKING NOT give it your usual poc/white treatment. Cause there is a huge chance it didn’t matter. a genocide that targeted people specifically and only for being ‘poc’ of any kind would have been called the POC genocide, IF it isn’t that means the basis of persecution was not in fact this vague concept of ‘pocness’. It can for example be more specific or detailed than just that or a completely different social dynamic as a whole. Either way these interpretations of yours are usually unneeded
  • IF and omg if you do this, if you consider a GENOCIDE less or more important based on  ’are they poc?’ fuck you I s2g 
  • if you say stuff like ‘never forget x genocide’ sarcastically FUCK YOU
  • If you look pass a book or a source or post cause you haven’t decided whether they are ‘poc or not’ then FUCK YOU

I have more to say on this but I’m done for now like seriously if you do any of this or similar stuff fuck you, being dismissive of human suffering and GENOCIDE is literally despicable. like part one is silly stuff y’all do but it is forgivable if you guys learn but part two is literally trash behavior its revolting and I swear to god if you do that you have to sort out your priorities in life tbh if you can literally read about genocide and whatever conclusion you form starts with BUT or ARE THEY or ???? you need to stop doing whatever you think you are doing and look in the mirror and spit at your own face for me kthxbye

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If Fox thinks that a Muslim can’t write a book about Christianity

would they agree that men can’t write legislation about women?



A+ gif usage

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Prude - a woman who won’t fuck you

Dyke - a woman who won’t fuck you because you have a penis

Slut - a woman who fucks other people and not you

Tease - a woman who won’t fuck you even though she smiled at you

Feminist - a woman who won’t fuck you because she has, like, thoughts and stuff

Bitch - a woman who treats you the same as you treat women

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are you a boy? your clothes are boy clothes.

are you a girl? your clothes are girl clothes.

are you outside the binary of boy and girl? so are your clothes.

did someone just tell you your clothes don’t match your gender identity? they are a trashcan and their clothes are trashcan clothes.

Or in the words of Eddie Izzard.. 

Because this cannot be reblogged enough.

Screaming silently in adoration

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yeah i’m a Male Feminist ;) sex positive ;) pro porn ;) express yourself babe ;) don’t let the patriarchy stop you from sending me nudes ;)

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like, if you’re attracted to cis women but not attracted to trans women, i definitely urge you to ask yourself why

trans women are a really really broad class and i can’t see any meaningful way that someone being part of that class necessarily tells you much about our bodies. is the difference something which is actually there (and there is not much there) or something which patriarchy has constructed?

because i think it’s an awfully huge coincidence if the entire class of people who you just happen to categorically not be attracted to are also an entire class of people who patriarchy just happens to take every opportunity to construct as disgusting and unfuckable

like that oppressive socialisation probably has something to do with that preference, and if you interrogate it you might find that the only reason you weren’t open to intimacy w trans women was because of it

if you do so then congratulations, you’ve successfully beaten up the little patriarchal cop in your head!

Hello dear friends! Would you mind circulating this post again? Literally only transmisogynists are doing that now, passing it around with godawful commentary on it and smugly tagging it #rape culture and if i get called a rapist one more time by a smug BDSM blogger i’m going to flip my shit, thank u all <3


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