If you have suffered a tragedy and someone says, “you’re in my prayers” with sincerity, and you respond with some egotistical shit about being atheist you are an emotionally inept moron.
For real though like think about it. If someone is religious, there’s really no kinder sentiment they can express than appealing to the highest power they know for your recovery. Whether or not you think it “works” is irrelevant— the kindness is absolutely real.
1. Nice ableism in the first post. Really great.
Except, if YOU have suffered a tragedy, why are YOU obligated to bite your tongue and smile and accept every placation and sentiment happily, regardless of how it makes YOU feel? Why is the sentiment of the person giving comfort more important than the feelings of the person suffering here?
YOU are the one who is suffering. And if “you’re in my prayers” DOESN’T help YOU, the person who is SUFFERING; if it in fact, MAKES YOU FEEL WORSE, why are YOU the asshole for saying something? Why are YOU “emotionally inept”?
Why does the person suffering have to just suck it up and and say nothing, even if well intentioned sentiments are ACTUALLY HARMFUL? Intention does not negate causation, and if something you have said is causing a suffering person MORE SUFFERING, however well intentioned, it is NOT the suffering person’s fault if they tell you.
I’m an atheist. If i am SUFFERING, as you said, and you used your religion as a way to comfort me, that would not help. In fact, it would probably make things WORSE. How am I the bad guy here, when I am the one suffering, and YOU are the one who has made it worse, just because you were well intentioned?
MAYBE, just MAYBE, if someone you know is suffering, you should CONSIDER what will ACTUALLY make them feel better, instead of what YOU think is a kind thing to say. Since, ya know, THEY are suffering.
I hope I don’t sound like a dick but what WOULD help console an atheist? How does it make you feel worse? Religious people and non religious people are usually misunderstanding each other. We can’t think of another way to console. What if it’s a stranger? How do we follow up on the mistake? I don’t wanna say “Oh well I’ve got nothing else.” Well I suppose something like “I wish for your recovery.” But does that still fall in the religious category???