If you have suffered a tragedy and someone says, “you’re in my prayers” with sincerity, and you respond with some egotistical shit about being atheist you are an emotionally inept moron.
For real though like think about it. If someone is religious, there’s really no kinder sentiment they can express than appealing to the highest power they know for your recovery. Whether or not you think it “works” is irrelevant— the kindness is absolutely real.
1. Nice ableism in the first post. Really great.
Except, if YOU have suffered a tragedy, why are YOU obligated to bite your tongue and smile and accept every placation and sentiment happily, regardless of how it makes YOU feel? Why is the sentiment of the person giving comfort more important than the feelings of the person suffering here?
YOU are the one who is suffering. And if “you’re in my prayers” DOESN’T help YOU, the person who is SUFFERING; if it in fact, MAKES YOU FEEL WORSE, why are YOU the asshole for saying something? Why are YOU “emotionally inept”?
Why does the person suffering have to just suck it up and and say nothing, even if well intentioned sentiments are ACTUALLY HARMFUL? Intention does not negate causation, and if something you have said is causing a suffering person MORE SUFFERING, however well intentioned, it is NOT the suffering person’s fault if they tell you.
I’m an atheist. If i am SUFFERING, as you said, and you used your religion as a way to comfort me, that would not help. In fact, it would probably make things WORSE. How am I the bad guy here, when I am the one suffering, and YOU are the one who has made it worse, just because you were well intentioned?
MAYBE, just MAYBE, if someone you know is suffering, you should CONSIDER what will ACTUALLY make them feel better, instead of what YOU think is a kind thing to say. Since, ya know, THEY are suffering.
I hope I don’t sound like a dick but what WOULD help console an atheist? How does it make you feel worse? Religious people and non religious people are usually misunderstanding each other. We can’t think of another way to console. What if it’s a stranger? How do we follow up on the mistake? I don’t wanna say “Oh well I’ve got nothing else.” Well I suppose something like “I wish for your recovery.” But does that still fall in the religious category???
How about “I’m so sorry” or “I hope things get better” or “is there anything I can do to help?” or “do you want to talk about it?” Those sentiments are fine, warm-hearted, and don’t bring faith into it.
If you want to comfort someone, do it on THEIR terms. Don’t assume your language of comfort will help other people.
And it’s not just atheists. I’m supremely uncomfortable with Christians praying for me.
SO basically I have been meaning to talk about this for a while now so I probably won’t keep it that short, this shall be a psa in tumblr terms so bear with me tbh and maybe just maybe you will learn something and will stop giving me migraines everytime I’m rolling down my dashboard.
If you see a post, about a group of people, an ethnicity, a country —-> their history, culture, music, food whatever and your first impulse is diagnosing whether they are ‘white or poc’ stop that like literally stop that never do that.
IF this said faraway country or people fit your little white/poc diagram stop labelling them as such and for HEAVENS SAKE do no use the term ‘poc majority countries’ or whatever.
when you read a post about someone’s creations whoever they are, unless you are specifically talking about how they are viewed within American academia or whatever (for example x person is erased in this racist american textbook cause racist americans don’t view them as white etc) don’t call them POC creations or POC whatever the fuck blablabla poc supremacy blabla especially if you are talking about like rich upper class people in the ottoman empire or whatever. Like Suleiman the Magnificient is not your POC supremacy icon to burn down your neighbour’s white fav Henry VIII or whatever the fuck.
Don’t put different time periods and different regions of the world into this white/poc bullshit just don’t do it it is UNEEDED amongst many things
Even within the context of modern America, apart from certain specific groups you can’t really label a whole ethnicity as poc or white imo. Like I know Azeris that would pass as white in America both culturally/Socially/economically and physically and I know Azeris that wouldn’t. It is usually conditional, so even in America x group as a whole can usually hardly be put into that white/poc thing
Now to get into the deeper seas of fuckery on this site oh boy oh boy indeed.
IF and good lord I can’t believe this needs to be said but anyway, IF you see a post about a genocide or human suffering of any kind do not DO NOT DO NOT DO FUCKING NOT give it your usual poc/white treatment. Cause there is a huge chance it didn’t matter. a genocide that targeted people specifically and only for being ‘poc’ of any kind would have been called the POC genocide, IF it isn’t that means the basis of persecution was not in fact this vague concept of ‘pocness’. It can for example be more specific or detailed than just that or a completely different social dynamic as a whole. Either way these interpretations of yours are usually unneeded
IF and omg if you do this, if you consider a GENOCIDE less or more important based on ’are they poc?’ fuck you I s2g
if you say stuff like ‘never forget x genocide’ sarcastically FUCK YOU
If you look pass a book or a source or post cause you haven’t decided whether they are ‘poc or not’ then FUCK YOU
I have more to say on this but I’m done for now like seriously if you do any of this or similar stuff fuck you, being dismissive of human suffering and GENOCIDE is literally despicable. like part one is silly stuff y’all do but it is forgivable if you guys learn but part two is literally trash behavior its revolting and I swear to god if you do that you have to sort out your priorities in life tbh if you can literally read about genocide and whatever conclusion you form starts with BUT or ARE THEY or ???? you need to stop doing whatever you think you are doing and look in the mirror and spit at your own face for me kthxbye
like, if you’re attracted to cis women but not attracted to trans women, i definitely urge you to ask yourself why
trans women are a really really broad class and i can’t see any meaningful way that someone being part of that class necessarily tells you much about our bodies. is the difference something which is actually there (and there is not much there) or something which patriarchy has constructed?
because i think it’s an awfully huge coincidence if the entire class of people who you just happen to categorically not be attracted to are also an entire class of people who patriarchy just happens to take every opportunity to construct as disgusting and unfuckable
like that oppressive socialisation probably has something to do with that preference, and if you interrogate it you might find that the only reason you weren’t open to intimacy w trans women was because of it
if you do so then congratulations, you’ve successfully beaten up the little patriarchal cop in your head!
Hello dear friends! Would you mind circulating this post again? Literally only transmisogynists are doing that now, passing it around with godawful commentary on it and smugly tagging it #rape culture and if i get called a rapist one more time by a smug BDSM blogger i’m going to flip my shit, thank u all <3
THIS POST IS TRUTH AND IF YOU THINK IT’S NOT BETTER THINK AGAIN
These “kink-shaming is the same as homophobia” kinksters view their own kinks as sexual perversions—something they engage in that turns them on because it’s taboo, because it triggers other emotional responses along with arousal (i know because I’m kinky too). This is the same way they view queer people. They think being gay, bi, etc. is a sexual perversion. That we’re queer because it’s taboo because it’s risky. They view it as another fetish, and try to relate to us in that way. Like, “look I’m a pervert, just like you.” And that shit is so homophobic and damaging, because it plays into the whole “slippery slope” rhetoric and the old-school queerness as perversion tropes. Please keep your comparisons to yourself. My normal, adult same-sex relationships are not the same as you wanting to fuck some cartoon ponies.
The problem here is that these squealing man-children, so desperate to keep women out of their precious games, want it both ways. They want gaming to be taken seriously as a culture and art form, while at the same time throwing an unbelievable tantrum when subjected to serious criticism. This is ludicrous and immature on so many levels. Gaming isn’t for you, anymore. Gaming is for everyone. Everyone gets to have their say, to make their criticism, and gaming doesn’t need you to defend it.
The only thing left for these people to do is put their toys back in the pram and huddle together as the tide rises against them, until they wake up in five year’s time and realise that Assassin’s Creed 7 was actually a pretty good game, even though they had to waste three precious seconds flicking the gender over to ‘male’ on the character creation screen so they can feel comfortable again. Change is inevitable, especially when half of the freaking gamers in the country are women and actually want to play some games that don’t treat them like disposable trash.
So, here’s another change for you: if you really think feminism, or women, are destroying games, or that LGBT people and LGBT relationships have no place in games, or that games in any way belong to you or are “under attack” from political correctness or “social justice warriors”: please leave this website. I don’t want your clicks, I don’t want your hits, I don’t want your traffic. Leave now and please don’t come back.
the united states of america is fucking horrific and repulsive and people have every right to shit talk it but leave fat people out of it and stop acting like having fat people makes the usa a bad place, when you could focus on idk literally everything else
breaking news: evil feminist leader Anita Sarkeesian ruins gaming everywhere forever by saying “that’s pretty sexist, how about not doing that.”
nice guys everywhere are suffering. now they cannot beat up a hooker and steal her money without thinking “maybe this is sexist”. the american way has truly collapsed and our nation will never be the same. please take off your fedoras for a moment of silence.
“I think it’s weird that teenage girls know more about giving blowjobs than they do about masturbation. It makes me sick to my stomach that so many young girls think sex is just about a guy finishing.”—
i find it interesting that when it comes to liking girls I’m just like GIRLS ALL GIRLS YES PERFECT GIRLS but with boys i’m like you must fit criteria 1-9 but 9 is optional only if you completely fill criteria 10-13 with a non-optional essay on 21st century sexism due by 5am
I don’t call that interesting. More like “prejudice” “discrimination” or “inherent bias”
could someone please come pick up their crying child